Tale of a culture that knew it all

Why is Waste Management not our Cultural Heritage anymore?

Where I come from, is a small village in Himachal Pradesh. I grew up seeing both my nani and dadi collect all their kitchen waste and segregate it as and when produced. The vegetable peels went to the basket kept for feeding the cattle, onion peels and other such non edible items went to another basket that would be dumped near a cow dung heap referred to as “Malyud” in the local language (A Malyud is where kitchen waste is mixed with cattle dung and coverts to manure over time, with some daily mixing. It is mostly located at a distance from the house, near the fields, or in the backyard for the kitchen garden), left over food was also fed to the cattle and hence managing all organic waste effeciently.

All worn out clothes found a new life in the form of a “Khandolu” ( usable pieces of old clothes stitched together and filled with bits of cloth cuttings or cotton)

PS -since i have no pictures at the moment, borrowing from the internet. am sure all of us have seen these in our homes

, or “Baithku” (old cloth strips woven together to form a seating mat)

, or a “Binna” (a doughnut shaped padding to carry water in Ghara on heads) and so on.. 
Since there were no toilets, people would dig pits in the farms and then cover them with the same mud after their daily rituals. Utensils were washed with ash and the outlet of the washing area led to vast fields full of plantations only to add on to the nutrients of the soils (it didn’t matter much pollution wise, because the population density was pretty low back then).
The plates used for serving in gatherings and festivities were “pattals” made up of leaves stitched together with wooden pins. (Completely organic)

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these tiny katoris are a new innovative addition not made traditionally though.


This was the norm in almost all households and hence, there was very little for the panchayat to do in terms of waste management. 
Even the plastic waste was taken care of at the household level itself. I remember my great grand mother going around with her hunched back, collecting plastics from the hill slopes. She would bring heaps back home, wash and dry them and then weave them together to make “binnas” (seating mats). She also sold them to people at times.

Wasn’t this the kind of self awareness that everybody had?

Now we have everything in plenty- People, their waste and their ignorance, but the capacity of nature and its systems, to clean this filth is exhausted. 
All our lifelines- the rivers and lakes are flowing with sewage. Be it Udaipur, Ooty, Bhopal, Raipur or any lake in an indian city, there is sewage being illegaly (not that no one knows) dumped in it. Ganga is dying in our filth, Yamuna has froth floating over it. There is plastic everywhere. If you happen to witness a dust storm here in Delhi, you will see plastic bags and other trash soaring high all around you… 
Every now and then, we read of some group somewhere, all determined to collect heaps of plastic bottles and wrappers, be it the Everest foothills, or any other trek route, or tourist spot. Because we, as a society are so inapt, that we cannot take care of our waste ourselves at all.

Sagarmatha Pollution Control Committee, Garbage, Mt Everest
https://thehimalayantimes.com/nepal/more-than-32000-kg-waste-collected-from-everest/

Why is segregation of waste at an individual household level such a difficult task? Why is not littering around so difficult? Why do we willfully choke our water bodies with our waste to only spend more resources on its treatment and purification , to drink it again (or may be the filth of an upstream area, because someone is drinking our shit eventually). 
How is it that these basics that sustain a living environment are nowhere to be found in the cultural heritage that we all wish (yes just wish) to boast of.

DIY Birthday decor

Am usually quite excited when it comes to organising parties at home . From the decor to snacks, the food, colour of drinks, the seating, lighting, the entire ambience and setting is what revolves in my head right from the moment I know i am going to have one.
But when you are short on time and still want it to be the way you always do, follow these simple steps and rock n roll..

Start with doing some scrolling. The internet is such a bliss because you can get n number of ideas to get inspired from. People do such amazing things that we can learn from. There is Youtube, Pinterest, Instagram… all these platforms are loaded with creative stuff if one wishes to indulge. To me mostly pinterest comes to the rescue in such situations.

Palm leaf backdrop for animal/zoo/safari/jungle or dinosaur themed birthday party!

https://in.pinterest.com/pin/217298750757535479/

I quite liked this image and wanted to explore on these lines. you can follow the link for more such ideas.


Since I had a fair idea of the theme (Its had to be WILD!!), I quickly created this invitation card. (knowledge of softwares like photoshop always comes handy)

shabby job with the address hiding i know..

Since I was short on time and a lot to do, so i could not afford distraction. Hence, the cutie set off happily with daddy and his friends for the extended holi celebrations.
I had all the house and time for myself. A luxury i don’t enjoy often..

I had already arranged the various chart papers required. (you can try combinations from these different shades below)

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Other basics required :
Rope (to act as the base on which the leaves will be stuck and hung. Measure the length of your space and keep some extra for hanging)
Nails to hang the rope from side to side
Glue gun to stick the charts on the rope
Scissors or a cutting knife (you can use a precision knife like I did. I made cutting feel like drawing. the fingers sure hurt though)
Measuring scale ( I mostly use an estimate.. i know its better to measure… but sometimes judgement is enough)

I began with cutting a few small leaves

once you start cutting, you just enjoy the process. All these different shapes. Its fun imitating nature
This is the easier lot. Sorry for the poor image. i am pretty bad at documenting the process . I will improve.

So these different shapes and sizes of leaves are ready to be clubbed together.

I lay them all flat on the ground with the rope stretched underneath, and when i felt my arrangement was satisfactory, I stuck the leaves in place with a glue gun
Some imitations, some real. a recycled wine glass and a few things pretty and yum…Voila here are all ready…

He sure is a WILD TWO

Bathing the cutie

Bathing the little one can be quite when it comes to water usage. While I want him to enjoy all the splitter splatter, am not very comfortable with water being wasted. So without letting the little one miss out on this joy called carefree childhood, i try my best to make it more fulfilling yet as responsible as i can afford to be (we all have our circumstances I know). 

When he was tinier, my mom would sing a traditional song for him while bathing him while he would just lay on his bathing chair and try and catch the water stream. 6 months onwards, the bath times become more active and the urge to splitter splatter creeps in into the naughty minds. I usually filled half a bucket of water, and while it was at it, i would get the boy all excited and happy about bathing, and get him seated in his bathing tub and pour over. Let the fun begin!! After getting him all cleaned with a wash, I would let him sit for a while in the fresh batch and let him have fun. He still follows this bathing routine though, but with him growing up (he is 2 now, a big boy), have introduced the joy of standing and bathing to him. A stream of water falling on the scalp, gushing down his spine.. uses way less water and Ah.. what an experience bathing is..

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Many a times, in the hustle bustle of our daily lives, we miss out on such experiences or probably we outgrow them. But for children, every little thing they do is a new experience and needs to be as fulfilling as possible. Life will anyway take a toll and there will be routines and hasty baths, and then dry baths or no baths at all … enjoy till it lasts… both the luxury of time and water…

A lot of mommies complain that their tiny just wont get out of water, or create a tantrum and then cry their lungs out while dressing up. Well, kids do that whenever they are stopped from doing what they are enjoying. We have to talk them out of it.. you have to make both bathing and then dressing up fun for them. If they look forwards to daily activities, it will be much easier for you. i know it takes a lot of energy and effort and talking to convince the little one, but honestly, its worth it.
Here’s a little bit of how we go about it
“Rudu, come let’s go.. you should come out now”
(folding his arms and giving a sharp nudge) “No”
“Rudu Please!, you need to get out. you are clean already”
(stronger comeback) “No”
“Ok fine.. 1 more minute.. do you want your cars?”
(all excited and happy and splash splash)
So i bring him his car, and then pull out another one, and there you go.. some extended moments of fun and joy (this could take a while at times.. just follow the lead, and try and convince him to come out. you can site genuine reasons that the child may relate to and feel the genuineness).

The next couple of times i will get a splash everytime i walk closer to him, which i thoroughly enjoy too. On my next call he usually comes out of water and curls into the towel, and lets go of his body for me to carry…
What a joy it is..that my almost daily story…

Children really adapt. you don’t realise, but they do. they take cues from you, and your reactions to their behavior. You have to maintain a careful balance of following their lead and managing your way. The more you enjoy it the better it is ..

Also, its important for the baby to have moments with both the parents. Husband dear is mostly busy on weekdays, but whenever possible, we make sure the both of us engage with him in our own ways as much as possible. understanding when to give the child his own space and when to intervene requires a lot of patience and understanding. the child is an individual and has his own preferences and likability. 

This is my perception about things. Do share yours because we are all learning our way….

When we first travelled with the little one

The both of us make occassional visits to the Himalayas (a thing that just caught on right after we met )… visits to places that felt home.. places we belong… Together we share extremely fond memories and experiences of travel , but that’s another story. After you become parents, first few months are just about recovering, getting the life back on track, enjoying the softness that the baby brings in life… The “oops!!!.. I hope I didn’t hurt you sort of a careful touch… both the mother and the baby really are fragile in this period and you need the same amount of pampering… once the baby starts handeling his neck , we though would be a comfortable time for us to think of travel…We knew we wanted to explore more regions around Kullu, but weren’t exactly sure where we’d stop… So here We go….into the wilderness with our 3 month old..

Country roads take me home.. to the place.. we belong…
To our surprise, he mostly slept tight throughout the journey (the boring straight roads especially), and woke up occasionally, just when it’s about time for all of us to rest.. Somehow our timings matched… Also, he needed out of all the fastening…

While awake, he would just sit in his car seat, gazing at the scene outside, getting all excited and then falling to sleep again .. mostly by himself , while me and dear husband enjoyed our time seated in the front ( but subconsciously.. you know you have an eye there… ). Travel with kids is very different. Its not just the 24 X 7 mental attentiveness alone, but everything from their packing to their comfort gears needs to be sorted. The more comfortable the baby is.. the more hassle free it will be … apart from all the essentials, the car seat cum cot worked like a charm. The “Babu saab” (as we call him at times) enjoyed all the views and felt the breeze flow into his veins as much as we did, or maybe even more . They are quite sensitive to change in environment. We felt him react and adapt…. It was a delight.

That gushing sound of rejoicing waters….. those sprinkles that we felt deep @Pandoh dam
Destination @Pulga… A tiny village nestled in the Himalayas… So serene.. so quiet..All one can feel there is “CALM”

Our first trip together as Mommy Daddy and cutie was indeed a trip to remember….. With every trip, we have only learned to make things better and easier for ourselves.

Doesn’t the picture say it all? @Kasol
Morning tea @ Jibhi
That’s a view from Shimla .. Mounain ranges of kalpa kinnaur..
The Hatu experience – Road layered with frozen snow. It was pretty slippery eh….

Waiting for many more such experiences ….

How I got my fussy eater to get the necessary nutrition

Right from birth, or  even as a fetus actually, a very important indicator of your little one’s health is the monthly weight gain milestone. When mine was just a couple of months old I would get concerned and anxious especially before the doctor visit because that’s like a monthly report card for the baby’s health and is mostly about how well he is being fed. I would worry if he met the weight milestone or if he would be able to gain weight at the required pace… we did just fine…:)

around 6 months was a smooth ride with his eating for me..

The real battle started when the thought “ I hope am feeding him enough” changed to “how do I get him to eat this?” because  never has he ever refused mommy milk, but the faces he made at the khichdi ( rice and pulses boiled together) I offered, left me all worried. At times he would refuse a food item by just smelling or worse just by looking at it. So adamant, that he would seal his lips and even if I ever tricked him into eating something, he would just wipe his tongue clean.

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They say “Your baby already has a developed sense of taste. In fact, newborns seem to have more taste buds than adults do. Sensitivity to sweet and bitter tastes is present at birth, but reactions to salty foods don’t come until about 5 months.” (Babycentre)

So I guess they are very sensitive towards the taste and smell of what they consume. It’s still easier feeding infants because…. not many options you know.. Holy Cow to the rescue (only mommies and daddies would know)…while toddlers are a different game altogether.

I have realized that it is better to give your child what he/she wants to eat (healthy alternatives of course) than forcing them to eat what you want. Nutrition is not essentially in the conventional daal rice that we have been told to feed, but can be looked at as just nutrients that can be served in a combination of foods in a variety of ways. I myself have been a very fussy eater and my aversion to yellow daal and tindas still lives on. So it’s not that force feeding will change anything. In fact, look for interesting ways to feed the child things they like in the ways they can relish . After all food is meant be enjoyed. Isn’t it?.

I always make sure I ask him, what he wants to eat, and give him a variety of options. Even though he can’t communicate yet and just nods, I make sure I follow what he wants. He should be allowed to taste and dismiss some things. At times I end up preparing five different dishes because he just wouldn’t eat. You would all agree, the intention is to feed the child healthy food and not force feed him what you have prepared.

If this one likes something, he just sticks on to it until he gets bored of it. There was a time when he just ate suji kheer, so I would add a good amount of malai to the suji, Then he just wanted ghee shakkar n rice, so I gave him a good amount of home made ghee, desi shakkar and rice from our own fields back home (way more nutritious than the polished rice we find in the market). he loved eating poha for a while. His urge for eating eggs was met with me adding a lot of veggies minced and mixed into the omelette or a serving of fruit pancake with apple slices and honey ( I avoid giving him sugar ) . His latest is a fascination towards paranthas. So I make paranthas of daal (boil well washed yellow daal, add some salt, knead it with dough. You can add minced garlic and onions too and Voila.. it makes a deliciously nutritious breakfast for all.) or spinach puri/parantha, paneer +spinach+jeera parantha, aloo methi parantha.. and what not prantha. (that’s a way of getting veggies into him without the fuss).Also, their likes and dislikes keep changing at times depending on how easily eatable the food item is.. these days he likes being independent and finger foods work best

I let him make a mess at times, only for him to realise it isn’t pleasant and hence is better avoided.
eating pieces of the omelette with a fork gave him that independence without making a mess

He is a banana fan (ripe, cooked with a pancake, sliced and laced with honey on a bread slice, or just roasted on a pan) , loves pomegranate (it’s a task to peel I know.. and gets messy when the little one bursts them, but it’s nutritious), n apples (sliced, unsliced, apple sauce), n strawberries (shake or smoothie) n now water melon ( as a fruit, juice, n frozen). He has recently started eating cucumbers too.

His love for fruits has grown over time.. his likes dislikes have been changing as per his taste and i have welcomed his choices because force feeding is the last thing on my mind

As a snack, I give him Threptin biscuits (easily available at any medical shop) as they are a healthier option than regular cookies. Only two at a time and just twice a day. It also increases his urge to drink water somehow so loads of water intake. Another healthy snack would be vegetable crisps (there are a couple of entrepreneurs offering healthy  chips ,I take mine from tobehealthy as they have some amazing flavors and healthy options that I love to much on too)

As far as junk food is concerned, It’s best avoided and should be delayed as much as possible (Am not sure what will happen once he starts going to school). No cold drinks, no candies, and no chips. We do occasionally share tiny pieces of chocolate, relish pastries at times but that’s all. We ourselves are not very fond of junk so it’s been easier so far.

Just yesterday he hogged on the sandwich I prepared for myself (which by the way I have been asking him to taste for quite a while now). He was savage with it and ate like a ferocious lion stuffing all the cucumber and onion into his mouth…to my surprise obviously. It sure was a delight and further strengthens my belief that things will only get better with time, as he will become more open to different foods and tastes.

I feel hungry now…..Hope you had a good read!!

Keep Calm… he will grow up

So When you Ask me, how do I manage to work, or keep the house in shape, inspite of having a child at such a demanding stage to take care of…mmm I don’t have a “One” defined answer but its more like a gradual process of both of us evolving our ways with each other.

I am a work from home consultant mommy and my office has been very kind on me with that. May you all get such humane bosses who respect the circle of life…. Tathastu!!!. But how much do I work on the office project is…. mmm.. well that’s .. mm…. I will start first thing tomorrow.. Promise!!! Is my everyday struggle….

I will fill you up with analysis soon my friend…

Actually, for me it is very difficult to focus on something so technical in bits and with a curious kid at home you just can’t afford to be so involved in something, that you lose sight on him. He is at that stage, where everything is new information. Even the objects around him that have been lying there since ever have new usage now. I can’t stop him from exploring and making sense of things on his own, because clearly, that would kill his enthusiasm and curiosity. So, I make sure I assist him whenever required, and try and guide him what we can do with the object, or why he cannot use it right now and how not to handle it.. But most important I have to not let him hurt himself or break whatever he is exploring. I do lose my calm at times, but I know we will get there soon, Together….. That place where we both understand things better and of course with time he will become more receptive. He is just two …. It will only get better… Much love!!!!

My home is full of touch me not items .. you know those delicate kinds.. that too within his reach….i usually get a lot of “start keeping your things away, he will break them all” or “how come everything is still intact.. soon he will start breaking”.. N not that he hasn’t, but trust me, had I kept everything away and changed everything I like otherwise, it wouldn’t be as pleasant as it is today and neither would that have prevented any of the breaking. Kids explore… that’s what they are supposed to do…. And that’s how they learn handling different items…. Imagine I have a whole lot of pots and plants and terrariums all over the house. The smarty does know there is a catch to them, so he usually uses them to threaten me… Like when he needs attention, is hungry or poopy.. he becomes quite a thing to handle and that’s when all the breaking and spoiling and spilling happens. So am more like a Hawk mommy at times, watching him with the side eye.. hahah… but trust me i don’t feel hiding everything away is a better way that letting things be the way they are… we just have to be a little more attentive towards their actions.. thats all

Thats how messy it gets….thats his way of letting us know something is bothering him to an extent that he can cause destruction.. Rudra roop..

When he was tinier and had just started crawling and reaching out to things on his own, he would break things accidentally. It is bound to happen. But I made sure he watched me clean it and see how terrible the object has become now. I guess this sensitised him a little. He loves arranging things with me now. Puts them back at place. Tries to broom the room. Girls are way sharper I know.. this tiny has at his pace.. Kids are always learning, its our duty to sensitise them.

They don’t know the consequences of a jar unlock or a hammer bang.. but we need to be around to help them realise that mess is not desirable.not by scolding or yelling, but by talking to them about it. Explaining it to them. Trust me they pick up. it will never go waste..

I have been through stages when he would just bang the laptop shut, or spill my paints, ,or try and walk over my art work, but seeing my reactions, he realised its important to me. An angry reaction is my last resort. Mostly I try and communicate my feelings to him.

Kids mostly become rowdy when they seek attention. That’s their natural instinct. The intensity differs per child and depends on the reactions they get. I try and play with him a lot and involve him in activities. Whenever am playing, am only focussing on him. I even give him my paint brushes (without paints of course) and a paper and crayons to scribble. I don’t want him scribbling on the walls and floors, so I keep an eye on him while he is at it, and talk to him out of his urge to scribble. Dividing his attention has also worked well. As in, luring him to something less messy or less problematic.

Kids have a lot of energy. We need to channelize it.

Also, I feel this limit on his exploration has changed over time. A few months ago he was only allowed to touch the pens in my supervision, now he can have them alone, as now I know just a distant watch is enough. I mostly let him mess around as much as I can handle. And kids don’t really follow order, they have their own way of dealing with things and its all based on their current capabilities and understanding. they evolve and change. let them do things wrong, but give them the direction to follow. they will eventually.

Let your child explore different tools and items under your supervision obviously.. this will keep them interested plus its a good watch..

With time, I have managed to limit his mess to his room and now he helps me clean it too. Now when he spills food, or breaks a glass accidentally, he knows something bad has happened and he might get a scolding for that. So, in turn now I understand that he is becoming sensitive, so rather than scolding, we can talk about it and sort it out. Obviously the communication is one side English and the other side gibberish. But its fun .

I have always loved kids, a lot….. infact to an extent where I haven’t hesitated asking people at weddings if I could baby sit their chubby munchkins while they enjoy the wedding peacefully… What a relief that would be to me to find such an angel at weddings I attend now… 😛 .. but ya I love kids and this journey with my little one of understanding and appreciating his individuality, while keeping mine intact, is a great learning experience for me.

With kids, its mostly about giving them attention when they most need it. so I try and plan my activities around when he is engrossed in his own play and busy with his stuff. he does keep a watch on me too and comes over to my desk occasionally, so i try and engage him while imitates me and the way i move my brush or draw, but since he isn’t as efficient with handling tools at the moments, he usually gets bored and leaves. This keeps the curiosity intact without discouraging the kid, and you can enjoy your space while he enjoys his.

A happily involved child is a bilss. Makes life much easier …and if you notice his scribbling is limited to the sheets.. isn’t that awesome?

I know am not doing something out of the extraordinary, but ya.. that’s how I do it…:)